There is a slight difference between having gratitude and getting carried away. That we should not let our soul get completely carried away. Since he did it, we should not forget his favor. And to have the desire to return the favor. But returning a favor is one thing, and completely belonging to them is another. So? Do not belong to them. Sometimes, they might be a worldly person and do us a favor. All those examples given in Bhaktachintamani are about that. Ravana had done a favor to Vibhishana. So, should he have gratitude or not? So, wouldn't he be called ungrateful? Vibhishana was a devotee, so whatever Ravana did might work for him, but how can Vibhishana do the same? If Vibhishana did as he pleased, then Ram's reputation would be at stake. Because he is a devotee of Ram. So, should he have gratitude or not? Gratitude of weak people. Gratitude to him? This is a difficulty, then who should be called ungrateful? Huh? Then who should be called ungrateful? It is complicated. Huh? Never take help from weak people. That is good. This is true. So, if a rule is made, it works out well. Do not take much help from a weak person. Suffer a little. But do not take much help from a weak person. What to do? If we take help from a weak person, then if we don't help in return, it's not good, and if we do, it's still not good. If we have taken help from a weak person and don't help him, we are considered ungrateful. And if we do, it's still a problem. The difficulty with a weak person. So, like Bharatji, like Bharatji abandoned his mother. It is in the Shreepatri, right? Tell me, what is it? Like Vibhishana abandoned his brother. Like Vibhishana abandoned his brother, Bharatji abandoned his mother. Then? Vidura abandoned the family customs, the rishi's wife abandoned her relatives. The Gopis abandoned the company of their husbands, and the son of King Vena, Anga. Prahlad abandoned his father, and King Bali abandoned his guru guru A teacher. He will guide you on the path of kalyãn. Tap to open in glossary → They did not get defamed, rather their fame is sung in the scriptures. What kind of characters were they? How were they? What kind of characters were they? They were devotees of God. Where were the devotees? There were two. On one side were the devotees of God, and on the other side were those who were not devotees of God. But were those who were not devotees of God better, or were the devotees better? Whom to choose? Huh? Devotees are better. No matter what they do. So? Those who come in the way of worshiping God. Then we should push away the parents. There is no problem in that. So, they were all benefactors to them. Did Kaikeyi do a favor to Bharat or a disservice? Huh? She did a favor. Did Shukracharyaji want to do a favor to Bali or did he want to undermine him? Who wanted to undermine him? Huh? What do you say? Prahlad abandoned his father. So, did his father want to do him a favor, or what was his target? Huh? To save from the enemy. In that, to save from God. No, no, he had said, "I will give you the kingdom." What had he said? "I will give you the kingdom." Then he threatened him. First, he was offering the kingdom. So, what to do then? Huh? So, Swamiji has given a very good solution that we should not take much favor from them. Bharatji did that. His mother wanted to give him the throne, but "I don't want the throne. Not given by you." If she gives it, then it becomes a problem. So, do like that. Do not let their gratitude weigh heavily on your mind. And if it does, it becomes a problem. So, 'manapmanayoh samah' (equal in honor and dishonor), keep this in mind beforehand. Honor and dishonor are actions done by others. Earlier, non-malice, etc., and equality in enemy and friend, etc., are self-motivated. But honor and dishonor He himself does not do any up and down in it. But what if someone else does it to us? What if someone else becomes an enemy or a friend? How to maintain equality then? To maintain equality in that, suppress one's own impulses. We should not have such enmity, just as Yudhishthira did not have enmity towards Duryodhana. He did not have enmity. But Duryodhana had enmity towards Yudhishthira. Then how to conduct oneself? What to do? Huh? Remain free from retaliation. Do not retaliate. Do not retaliate and? Avoid it. Avoid him so that he does not cause us harm. That's it. But honor and dishonor are the equality when others apply them to us. In that too, rejecting honor internally and externally, and accepting its importance, Importance. Yes. Accepting it, remain free from joy and pleasure, and gladly accept dishonor and remain free from its reaction. Then It doesn't matter if they insult us. If they insult us, we have no other choice. But do not react to it. Then it is said that equality has been achieved in it. 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