Yādr̥gguṇō'ya puruṣas tādr̥śā vacanēna saha | dēśakālānusārēṇa bhāṣaṇīyō na cānyathā || And whichever qualities a person possesses, address that person with words that correspond to those qualities, according to the place and time, as appropriate, but do not address them in any other way. Whichever qualities a person possesses, meaning their caste, lineage, knowledge, penance, yoga, divinity, authority, influence, and other such qualities, according to those qualities of theirs, address them with words according to the place and time, but do not address them in any other way. If someone has studied under us, and is now in a high position, then they should be addressed as 'Sir'. Even though we might have previously addressed them informally, we should not do so then. There, all of their subordinates are present, who all address them as 'Sir, Sir', so we too should address them as 'Sir'. So, according to the place and time, whatever qualities they possess, whatever position they hold, address them with such words. Address them with words according to the place and time, but do not address them in any other way. It is said in Niti-vivek vivek Wisdom. Discretion. Carefulness. Good judgment. Tap to open in glossary → if there is a person of a good varna varna A caste of the ancient Indian social system: brãhman, kshatriya, vaishya, and sudra. Tap to open in glossary → ashram ashram 1) Stage of life. There are four ãshrams in total, each with their duties and responsibilities – brahm-chãrya, grahastha, vãnprasth, and sannyãs. 2) Hermitage. Place where tyãgis live. Tap to open in glossary → a yogi yogi 1) A person who has mastered the art of yog. 2) A person who has attained siddh-dashã and other extraordinary powers. Tap to open in glossary → address them all with appropriate words. In this, we should consider addressing them according to the country and place, for instance, if one's own disciple is very virtuous, and we address them in the singular in ordinary household affairs or at home, yet when a proper assembly is held, there, that disciple should be addressed in the plural. Say, 'Call so-and-so bhai.' Do not say, 'Call Mangaliya.' Say, 'Call so-and-so bhai.' Swami was a yogi yogi 1) A person who has mastered the art of yog. 2) A person who has attained siddh-dashã and other extraordinary powers. Tap to open in glossary → Initially, he was very poor. As a devotee of Swami, Swami, Gopalanand Swami, had affection for him, so he called him 'Mangaliya'. But he felt very bad. In this, Swami would not suffer much loss, but his own soul would suffer loss. If that happens, his soul suffers loss. And sometimes, we too might suffer loss, if we do not address them properly. So, to avoid loss to both, address them with words that correspond to their qualities. Place, time, circumstances, all these are highly relevant. Forget that they were small and used to play with us. Even if one's own disciple is very virtuous and we address them in the singular in ordinary household affairs or at home, yet when a proper assembly is held, there, that disciple should be addressed in the plural. Time, period, and age-appropriate addressing means that, even though he is one's disciple, if he is older if he is older in age, then he should be addressed with respectful plural terms. One should infer all this on one's own. Here, the command is for the virtuous, but what if someone is full of flaws? It does not mean that the person should be addressed according to their flaws. Should you address them like that? If they are highly educated, they are called 'Shastriji'. And if they lack some qualities, and behave like a rogue, should they be addressed as a rogue? Do not say that. Do not mention the negatives. Focus on the good points. You can call them 'Tapiraj', there is no harm in that. But do not call them 'Bhakhal'. If they are gossiping all day long, and everything is going on, do not call them 'Bhakhal'. Do not call them as they are. Do not say that. This is called etiquette. If someone is full of flaws, it is not to be understood that the person should be addressed according to their flaws. Address them with words that correspond to their qualities. So, if someone possesses such qualities, address them with good words. Bhashya. Generally, mutual affection is fostered only by speaking agreeably. If there is a flaw in speaking, the bond of affection does not remain. Therefore, the skill of addressing according to the place and time is essential in human life; understanding this, Shri Hari Hari An avatãr of Bhagvãn. He incarnated in His four-armed svarup to save an elephant from being killed by a crocodile. He cut off the crocodile’s head with His chakra. Tap to open in glossary → If any person, by nature, inspires affection in others, and mutual affection is fostered between us and them, if we address them with good words. It is not necessary to praise them falsely. But there are many ways to use good speech. So, even if it is the truth, as said in that poem, it is not absolutely necessary that the truth must be bitter. If one knows how to make the truth sweet, then it can be made sweet. Mostly, people have this belief that if it is the truth, it must be bitter. If we speak the truth, then it is rough, but that is not necessary. If one knows how to make the truth gentle, then it goes down easily. That is a skill of human nature. And there is also a skill in getting work done. Even in worldly affairs, Maharaj has spoken about half of the worldly affairs in this. That even in worldly affairs, it is very necessary. That cannot be called deceit, can it? Suppose one wants to say something to someone, and says it in good words, but the intention is different and different words are used, then is that not called deceit? Do not praise falsely. Do not praise falsely, but that does not mean you should not praise at all. They must have some plus points. Highlighting those, use words accordingly. And if one does not do so accordingly, even then it is fine. But ordinary good words, 'Come, brother', 'you', 'I', what is the harm in that? It is not that they do not deserve to be addressed as 'you' (respectful) and only deserve 'you' (informal). Address them in the plural. AI translation of the Gujarati transcript above, produced in the same pass that transcribed the audio, one English segment per Gujarati segment. Devotional and technical terms with no precise English equivalent (kirtan, satsang, vasana, samskara, and similar) are kept as their plain transliteration rather than force-translated. 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